Rogue Raven shares a personal insight into anti-gay discrimination in the workplace.
"The Office" as seen on tv. Pic courtesy of nbc.
If you’re a young aspiring entrepreneur like myself you will have most likely figured out that gay guys don’t generally fit into the modern day workforce. There seem to be (In most workplaces) those one or two people who will never let you get that promotion. They will never let you into that little management clique and they will never let you get ahead of them. Why? Because they are no doubt homophobic, unsure of themselves and deep down are just another bigoted, closed-minded dickhead who holds on to that ridiculous belief system that ‘All gays should be sent to live on their own island’.
So how do you beat them? Pretend to be straight? Ew, no stop it. If you feel like you are being sexually harassed, or even slightly mistreated in the workplace for the sole reason of ‘You’re a homo.’ You need to sort things out, and fast! Most gay guys would leave the workplace, never looking back, tail between their legs and a tear in their eye. Not you though. You need to stand up for yourself. So let’s get you informed.
The Number 1 Misconception:
“I should just go to HR! They will save me!”
I only hope you see right through this trick. You see, Judy… That lovely lady in the big old HR department has one agenda when you come crying to her that a manager or someone higher than you called you a faggot. She is going to lean close, cross her arms and wax ‘concerned’ across her face to convince you she is on your side. She isn’t.
The moment you step out of that office, she is on the phone to Head Office telling them everything you just divulged to her ‘In Confidence’ and asking them how to best save the company from a potential law suit without having to fire a manager. Judy’s main concern isn’t protecting you, someone who to her means nothing… She is interested in protecting the company, which in effect allows her to keep her job and get that breast augmentation she has been eyeing up ever since her husband left her for the maid last year.
You will no doubt at this point be talked into believing it was all dealt with and that nothing more will come of it and they will ask you to sign a little piece of paper which more or less waives your rights to sue them by agreeing that you believe the issue has been resolved. Oh hoorah, the douchebag who thinks he has the right to judge people based on their sexuality has had a mandatory one hour session of in-company counseling. Praise the lord, he’s healed! He’s a new man!
But he isn’t.
So grab that florescent orange ugly broom out of Judy’s hand before she sweeps any more of your dignity under that ugly tattered rug and let me tell you how we are going to shove that broom handle right up her arse.
Yes go to HR, yes make your complaint, No, don’t sign anything. When they say the matter is resolved, it is time to tell them you feel the matter hasn’t been resolved and to get outside help. Wherever you are in the world, I hope that you have something similar to Fair Work Australia. For us, these guys come in on your behalf and absolutely give it to them. They will interview everyone involved in the matter and make sure the issue is actually resolved, in some cases processes and procedures on sexual harassment and bullying in the workplace for that organization will need to be re-written.
Option B (My favorite) is to start coming to work dressed in drag. Just one little thing at a time, maybe no one will even notice. Start with an earing… Just one. Then eyeliner on one eye… A single high heel click-clacking along side your usual business shoe. One Chicken fillet. Provoke it if you have to. Why not fan the fire if the house is burning down anyway right?
But back to seriousness; if my previous suggestions aren’t viable, hire a lawyer. It’s worth it to get them to come in for a couple of hours and mediate between you, a manager and the jerk that still thinks name-calling is fun. Watch him absolutely die in his seat as your lawyer explains what will be happening if this ever happens again, throwing legal jargon at him that his little ‘one way street’ brain can’t possibly even begin to comprehend.
The bottom line is that gay discrimination in the workplace (or anywhere!) is not acceptable. Don’t let people get away with it. No one should ever be forced to quit a job because of some brainless mullet.
Stand up for yourself.
If not, you could always just do what I did… Write your resignation on the back of a crumpled up receipt you found on the floor of your car from months ago, throw it at the manager, (hitting her in the left boob) and then go start a clothing label.
The Editor comments:
We love Rogue Raven's heartfelt comment on this issue. He is not alone in shedding light in this dark corner. In fact , he finds himself in the illustrious company of Lord Browne of Madingley, formerly CEO of BP, the giant oil conglomerate. At the recent launch of Connect Out, an lgbt group set up by engineering firm, Arup, Lord Browne spoke of the need for employers to “think about inclusion in every decision they make.”
In 2007, Lord Browne was forced to step down as chief executive of BP after it emerged that he had lied to the High Court about where he met a former lover who was planning to take details of their relationship to the press. On being forced to come out after a 41-year career at BP, he told the audience: “Hiding my sexuality did make me unhappy and, in the end, it didn’t work. People guessed, and it was only a matter of time before it came out."
Lustralboy echoes Rogue Raven: "Don’t let people get away with it."
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