The following extract comes from a blog by Canadian, Michael Rowe. His views on the appropriateness of gay marriage as a reinfoircement to our equal status in society carry the weight of a unique experience.
"On August 24th 1985, my husband Brian and I were married at the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) in Toronto. I was twenty-two, he was thirty-five. The phrase "gay and lesbian marriage," let alone "equal marriage," had not yet entered the popular, social, or political lexicons.
Today, though, on my 30th wedding anniversary, I have some greetings of my own to send out.
To all the fulminating conservative politicians and itinerant peddlers of monetized, unchristian Christianity who've made a fortune mining bigotry and predicting the end of civilization because of equal marriage--you've lost. Give it up. Your Goliath is dead. The body is only moving because of residual putrescent gas build-up from centuries of the homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny you've passed off as "God's word" on the topic of human sexuality and relationships.
To our LGBT brothers and sisters who are getting married this month, or next month, or whenever--a long and happy life to all of you. Try to get through today with enough forgiveness saved up to get you through tomorrow. Don't turn into one of those smug married couples who look down their noses at non-married people, or who act as though full LGBT equality is now secure because we've won this battle. It isn't. There's still a lot of work to do, and no one likes a prig.
Also, consider separate blankets. And a Labrador.
To our LGBT brothers and sisters who have no intention of ever getting married, or at least not any time soon--a long and happy life to you too. Marriage isn't better or worse, it's just one choice among many, many valid relationship models. That said, as a sentient, political queer person, I've never been able to convince myself that turning our noses up at a right we didn't have was any sort of a power position so, whether you choose to marry or not, THANKS, OBAMA.
Lastly, to Brian, my husband--there's nothing I can tell you that you don't already know, and we're too old for clichés and public mawkishness, so I'll just put this out there--the only version of myself I know is the one who took that walk down the aisle with you on August 24th 1985, the one who grew with you over the next three decades. I'd be someone else entirely without you. Our life together is a patchwork. The stitches are tight, the colours are fast, and the weave is warm. We're a long way from perfect, but we're strong and true, and we're a part of history. Happy 30th Anniversary, sweetheart."
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