The last time I wrote, I said that the key to being sexy is being yourself. I still believe that. But I also know that it is very difficult for some people, if not all people, just to go out into the world without armour and simply be who they are.
The key then, is not to pretend to be different, or to change yourself. You need to reach down and find yourself. When you have a firm grasp of that ideal person that you are inside, you just need to find a way to bring that to the surface for all the world to see.
A firm grasp.
It reminds me of one of my favorite stories growing up, the story of Cinderella. Here is a girl who was seriously lacking in confidence because she wore rags and did housework, and felt that the high society life of gowns and princes was beyond her reach for that reason. Then one day she got a visit from a fairy who put her in a designer dress and sent her to the ball in style. Suddenly, just because she felt like she fit in, the little firecracker that was burning beneath the rags was let loose, and she found love and marriage to a handsome prince.
This, dear readers, is reinvention, and its not about changing who you are, or about pretending to be someone you are not. It’s about changing the way you see yourself in order to let you show the world just how amazing and downright lustral you are.
There are examples of reinvention everywhere you look in modern media. From the classics like Cinderella, to the more modern classics of Devil Wears Prada, the story rarely changes. Also let’s be honest, you can’t tell me that the image of Anne Hathaway turning from ugly duckling to swan didn’t have you doing a little happy dance, and imagining the possibilities.
So lets take a look at how we can release the inner you from his or her cage and letting them prowl.
1. Who Are You???
Pretty simple but also highly essential, and also deceptively tricky if you don’t have the gift for seeing yourself very clearly. Before you can release that inner you, you need to figure out who that is. You need to ask yourself what you know yourself to be. Are you a closet fashionista? Are you an outrageous flirt? Do you want to walk into a club like you own it and work the room?
Owning the room.
These are all pretty generic questions that you might want to ask yourself, but if you think you need a hand then please talk to some friends and ask them what they think. Like I said, this isn’t about changing yourself, it’s about finding a way for you to be yourself with confidence and pizzaz.
2. Look Good = Feel Good.
I still say that the key to sexiness is being yourself. But if, like me, you have problems being confident enough to show yourself to the world then one good way to boost the ego and the morale is to make yourself over in style.
Its no different from what the fairy godmother does for Cinderella, she took the girl from rags to riches and only by making a little wardrobe adjustment for just one night. So take a little time to yourself and experiment with your look and the clothes you wear, and think about what you want your inner you to look like.
Does your inner you have a different hairstyle? Would they wear white shirts and waistcoats, or would they wear tight jeans to show off their ... assets?
Just like before these are simple questions that you have thought about in passing a billion times. But the exercise here is about really sitting down and making the decisions about what is right for you, because if you can’t feel comfortable in your own skin, you will never feel like you can release your inner sexpot.
3. Jumping into the Deep End
I hate to say this, but it really is the best way to learn. Once you have your insides and outsides thoroughly worked out, then the only way to truly release them is to throw yourself out into a whole new world.
However, you can’t just go out to your local club, or bar, or somewhere where there are people who know you. People who know you already won’t be able to appreciate the ‘new you’ and you won’t be able to show the world who you now are when your old gang are there to remind you of how you have always been before!
So this is where we take a chance, get a gaggle of your closest friends and conspirators together, hit the city, and try somewhere you have never been before. Take a deep breath and walk in and show the world who you are by showing them what you would be afraid to show anyone else.
The truth is that you can never comfortably be anyone other than exactly who you are, and you shouldn’t have to be. However, sometimes releasing the inner you is a bit like a baby bird trying to fly. It might be able to fly on its own, but once in a while you need to take a chance and push yourself out of the nest to see if your wings are ready.
This time I am going to be a little bit sterner with you, my readers. If you manage to reinvent yourself, then please don’t be shy and share it with the LustralBoy team. Send in pictures and messages of how you did, and how you released the lustral boy inside.
Until I see you next dear readers, this is Jason, getting ready for the ball, signing off.
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