The word Sex is one of my favourite words. It creates all kinds of warm, and fiery images in my mind. It reminds me of all the hot things, that I have done, and all the things that I will do in the future. Just like Sex, the words Sexy is also one of my favourite words. It makes me think of all the gorgeous boys out there, the ones who have been to my bedroom already, and the ones who are still out there waiting to be given the guided tour.
All the gorgeous boys out there?
The only problem is, I am not sure what ‘sexy’ is, and if you asked me to describe it I really couldn’t tell you. So I am forced to ask myself, what is sexy? And what does that word mean to me?
Maybe sexy means different strokes for different folks?
If you pick up a mens fashion or fitness magazine and see a man on the cover, what do you see? I can tell you that you usually see a particularly sexy man, who may or may not be showing off all of his best physical features. The hair will be perfect, the clothes will be perfect, the muscles will be jaw dropping, and the face will be clear and very sultry looking. So it makes sense to assume that this is sexy. Well I can’t say I would kick any one of them out of bed in the morning, but for some reason they are still not what I call sexy, they are just attractive.
Perfection. But is it sexy?
You see my lovely readers, I know the truth. I know that these ‘sexy’ boys are made to look that way deliberately. The clothes are often picked out for them, the hair is a result of expert stylists, and the clear, gorgeous face is as a result of being caked in make up, and all of this is before you even consider the airbrushing. I wonder, if you take away all this, will that boy still look so sultry if you can see what he really looks like.
No airbrushing. Still sultry!
Let’s be honest with ourselves, the standard of what makes a sexy man or woman is so deeply unrealistic in this day and age that its almost laughable. We watch TV and movies and are confronted with the idea that beauty is all about face, hair and body and that if you don’t look like these shiny people you see, then you are NOT SEXY!! And worse, they make out that its natural and that this is what everyone ‘should’ look like. They conveniently forget to tell you the facts, that these bodies and faces are the result of deliberate intervention to create the eye-candy to sell their schlock to the world and its mother.
The joy of eye candy?
So how can I find this sexy, when the industry reeks of false consumerism? This leads me to a new question that I need to answer. What is a sexy man, and what does this mean to me? This will sound deliberately like an after-school special but to me it is still the truth. It isn’t what’s on the outside, its what’s on the inside that counts.... and no that doesn’t mean what’s inside their underwear either. Such filthy minds that my lovely readers have! To me what makes men sexy is not the way they look and appearance, much like art, is all deeply subjective. When I first came screaming out of the closet nearly six years ago, I thought that in order to be sexy you had to be thin, blonde, and have abs.
Abs and a shower?
This then led me to having a bad dye job, and becoming ever so slightly anorexic in my late teens. Now that I have become a little older and wiser, I know that I couldn’t be sexy by being someone else. They key to unlocking the little sex-pot within us all is about looking inside and finding what works for you, otherwise you end up just looking like a lot of the clones you see nowadays, all with matching hair, clothes and skinny jeans.
This sort of thinking also applies to the people I find sexy. Looks can be useful and like I said, when you are trying to sell yourself it’s definitely a good way to get my attention. But if you want to get my interest, then you need to do the practically impossible. You need to talk to me. For me a sexy body will only get you so far, but if you don’t have a personality and a mind of your own then I won't stay interested and get very easily bored. That’s what makes me feel so lucky about the man in my life.
Personality and a pussy?
Obviously I am in a happy relationship with an EXTREMELY sexy man. Now when I say extremely sexy with such outspoken capitalisation then he must be a blonde Adonis with abs, pecs, biceps, triceps etc? After all, that was what I thought a sexy guy looks like. However, my dear readers, you would be quite wrong. My sexy boyfriend is tall, dark- haired, blue-eyed and has a warm and beautiful heart. I could loose myself in his beautiful blue eyes, and every time he wraps his arms around me I melt.
Eyes to drown in?
Before you say ‘awh’ and write me off as a total romantic, however, you should know that even though he isn’t like the boys in the magazines or off of TV, he is so much better than they could ever be. He is real, and vital and when we are together its still as exciting and passionate as our first date.
Real and vital?
That, my readers, is what I think ‘sexy’ is. I think its being real, having a personality, and wanting to make each moment together as passionate, hot, and exciting as possible. Sexy is not about what you look like, its about who you are.
Knowing who you are?
So after yet another famous diatribe, I leave you all to ask yourselves, are you Sexy? This is Jason, the man who knows ‘Sexy’, signing off.
Somme picture credits: http://homotography.blogspot.com/
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