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It feels like every time I turn on the TV there is another show about single people eventually finding love. That's when I am not reading another book that has a romantic sub plot, and while I am an aficionado of the romantic comedy, that’s more for the actual comedy, which these days is sadly somewhat lacking.
The point is, why are we trying so hard to have a symmetrical world, where everything comes in pairs? Why does society try to make us feel bad for not being in a relationship? As a chronic bachelor I ponder such questions with real disdain, and I often think that being single has a vast wealth of rewards that sadly go unrecognised.
It is very easy to assume that the only people who like to be single, are the ones who like to 'play the field'. After all it's basic logic. In an exclusive relationship you cannot go out and flirt with men over a shy cocktail, you can't meet a new cute boy and pursue him in an exciting game of hard to get versus persistence. I will not lie, I like going out to meet new people, I like the excitement of it.
That electric thrill of eye contact.
There is that electric thrill of eye contact that sends a warm buzz down my spine, the butterflies that flare up in your stomach. Even that point where you are willing yourself to go over and talk to the cute boy at the end of the bar. It can be the ultimate rush, especially when you are successful and come away with a phone number, or maybe even something more.
But there is more to being single than sex, there is freedom too. In fact I almost want to start a petition to change the word from single man, to 'free' man. Let's be honest, when you don't have a partner to answer to then you are awarded a tremendous amount of liberty. You can go where you like, talk to whom you like, spend what you like, act like a total prat all you like and there is no one to tell you that you can't. Well maybe except some close friends that don't want to see you act like the aforementioned prat. The point is that when you are single you have the option: you can have the world if you really wanted it. When you are in a relationship, then your world can shrink to just one person, a frightening concept, if you ask me.
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There is more too, like the freedom to do nothing. The unusually overlooked singleton’s night in is something that I do look forward to once in a while, and I find I miss it when I am in a relationship. This is a night designed for you to do absolutely nothing. You can watch TV, chat to mates online, even watch a brilliant movie without having to wait for anyone to watch it with. Hell, you could even paint your toenails.... you know, if you are into that....
The point of this rant is simply to ask a question. Why are we all working so hard to pair up when there is so much more to explore in our own single lives? To all my single readers, leave here with just one thought, that we are free, liberated and masters of our own destinies.
This is Jason, saying goodnight and good nights out all round.
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